Beware of Child Ability

According to the Ministry of Education and Culture of the Republic of Indonesia, bullying is unpleasant behavior both verbally and physically or socially in the real or virtual world that makes a person feel uncomfortable, hurt, and depressed. Bullying can be done individually or in groups.

Bullying can be likened to the seeds of many other forms of violence, such as brawls, intimidation, beatings, and even murder. That way, if bullying can be suppressed, more severe violence can be prevented.

Forms of bullying behavior, including:

1. Physical abuse (pushing, punching, hitting, tripping, grabbing)
2. Verbal bullying (giving nicknames that are unpleasant, insulting, insinuating, threatening, or spreading gossip)
3. Social bullying (isolating, ignoring, slandering)
4. Bullying in cyberspace (making fun on social media, changing photos to be inappropriate, sending messages of terror)

Most of the bullying we hear about happens in schools. Bullying in schools can occur between students to students, teachers to students, or even students to teachers. Some examples of bullying at school include teachers labeling students as "stupid kids" or "bad  or student A hitting student B repeatedly.

Apart from at school, bullying can also occur at home. Without realizing it, maybe what we do has led to bullying. Bullying at home can occur between parents and children, brothers and sisters, or brothers and sisters. Some examples of bullying at home include: parents often compare older siblings to younger siblings; parents label children unpleasant; a brother beats a sister; etc.

Along with the advancement of technology, social media has become a place to socialize. Bullying also often occurs in cyberspace, otherwise known as 'cyber-bullying'. Whereas the impact of bullying through cyberspace is no less bad than bullying that is done directly, physically or verbally,

Impacts that may be felt by children can appear in the form of physical disturbances or emotional and behavioral disturbances. Physical disturbances that sometimes arise include physical injuries (if you experience physical violence), decreased or even excessive appetite, difficulty sleeping, or even ongoing pain.

In addition to physical disturbances, emotional and behavioral disturbances are more often felt when children experience bullying. Emotional and behavioral disorders that commonly arise include:

1. Being irritable and sad
2. decreased self-confidence;
3. being easily offended;
4. feeling excessive worry;
5. being quiet, shy, and withdrawn from the environment;
6. decreased learning motivation; and
7. being encouraged not to go to school.

Sometimes the impacts that are felt from the experience of being bullied are not only felt in the short term, but can be sustained in the long term if not properly handled.

If your child tells you that he is a victim of bullying, then listen calmly and provide a sense of security and support. Children are often reluctant to tell adults about bullying because they feel embarrassed if it happens or worry that their parents will be disappointed, upset, angry, or reactive. Then, praise your child for doing the right thing by telling your parents.

Apart from that, you can also ask your child to do a number of the following when you are a victim of bullying, including:

1. Ask your child to defend himself or say no when bullied.
2. Teach children not to bully or reply when bullied, but to try to avoid it. For example, when hit, it's better to dodge or parry.
3. Understand that everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
4. Focus on the positive things inside.
5. Discuss or chat with adults, such as parents, older siblings, or teachers, who can help.
6. You should avoid scolding children directly. As a parent, you need to understand that when he is bullied or bullied, children need to learn to solve their own problems. It is highly discouraged to immediately scold a child who is bullying. Instead, try getting other parents to work together to create a better environment.

You can do a number of things listed below to encourage your child who is a victim of bullying.

1. 1. Believe in children. You have to remind your child that it's not their fault and that their feelings of anger, sadness, fear, and embarrassment are normal and understandable. It is also important for your child to know when no one is allowed to bully them again.
   2. Help build a child's confidence. Encourage children to get involved in activities that can increase their self-confidence, including hobbies, sports, or other talents. In this situation, your child will feel proud when they are able to achieve something, especially according to what they like. You can also help children who are victims of bullying rebuild their self-image by creating a support system, both from family and friends.
   3. Be a supportive parent. For children, having supportive parents is very important to deal with the effects of bullying. Make sure your child knows that they can talk to their parents at any time. Also, reassure them that all problems will find a solution and get better. You can also provide support for children by being a good listener. How to support your little one by inviting children to tell stories while playing When your child is talking about his daily activities, ask him how he feels. What makes him comfortable and what does not in his daily life? This helps children to be more open and not hesitate when they want to tell stories.

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